Multitangented (get it, like multitalented)

Jealousy ~ Okay, I was thinking about this recently...I would definitely be a jealous girlfriend. Well, not one of those scarily jealous girlfriends who doesn't let her bf hang out w/ anyone who isn't male except her, but one who would always be thinking in the back of her head that she was being threatened by other girls around her guy. Okay, so maybe that would just make me an insecure girlfriend, but I think that goes w/ this oversimplified view of love that people have and that's what I'm basing that guess on. Moving on to that topic...

Love ~ I think people, especially romantics (myself included although maybe you wouldn't guess it) see love as this grand things that hits you, you get swept away in, and then it's all-consuming. I don't think that's realistic. I mean, I do believe in this grand, passionate love can exist btwn two people and last forever, but I don't think it necessarily, or even frequently, happens quickly or is all-consuming. There are so many different relationships that we can have w/ other people, and I think we lose a lot when we try to shove people into the little boxes we assign for them. Especially guy-girl relationships. I found myself trying to decide if I liked this guy the other day. I mean, I was like "hmm, do I like "random guy" as a friend or do I like him as more" and then I stopped myself and I was like, why does it matter if I label it like that? B/c when you pick a label you tend to pick a set of corresponding actions and why limit yourself or build up some kind of expectation or lack thereof in your mind? I mean, once you're involved w/ someone I definitely like that you say you're boyfriend/girlfriend b/c I think it entails a kind of commitment, however loose, but you don't need to set some kind of goal or lack thereof for a relationship w/in the first few days or the first few months for that matter of how long you know someone. People aren't means to an end, they're unique and different and they're more interesting if you let your relationships w/ them reflect that.

If you think about it, relationships aren't what about you say, but what you're telling someone. They aren't about what you do, but what you are projecting to the other person. I have relationships that change several times btwn the times that I actually talk to the other person. That's totally based upon me, but relationships are like those trees that bend in the wind but don't break...unless you try not to let them bend and then you lose them.

More later - Katie